Results/Conclusions Retention differences between men and women appear to be the result of decisions women make about their personal lives in a competitive job market. Relatively long graduate programs and multiple post-docs have pushed the age of obtaining a permanent job into the mid - late 30's for many individuals. At this point, most interviewees were partnered. Although most men and women met their partner in graduate school, women were more likely than men to have a partner in the same field. Men and women desired the same types of jobs but women with partners were more likely change career goals, apply to few jobs and geographically restrict their job search to accommodate their partner’s career. Single scientists were overrepresented among permanent job holders while individuals with partners in the same field were overrepresented among those holding temporary jobs for 3 or more years. Ornithologists and animal ecologists perceived the job market as more competitive than ecologists in other disciplines. Early career ornithologists had fewer children than early career ecologists who had fewer children than early career sociologists. Field research appeared to interfere with reproduction for ornithologists and ecologists even though many study reproductive success. We offer unorthodox advice on obtaining an ideal job and balancing career and family.